Monday, February 23, 2009
when life gives you lemons: a lemonade sampler
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so i'm headed home tomorrow, and my beloved is on day five of a cleansing lemonade detox. color me puzzled. last week i got home from work one night and there were giant bags of lemons all over the kitchen. ?wha??... had never heard of such a thing, although it's evidently popular, and i refuse to link to it because it might just be a bit unhinged, and i fear for all of us. plus i didn't find him particularly toxed in the first place (visualize, if you will, little floating air hearts circling my head... yes, i have it bad).
all this kvetching to say: i plan to join him in this crazy venture tomorrow. and i really, reeeallly love to eat. i'd like to say i love adventuring with him *more* than 3 squares plus snacks... (and coffee... oh god, the coffee...)
prediction: by friday i will be posting food. all kinds of food.
(god, i'm such a wuss! i just get so *angry* when i'm hungry. hopefully i won't go on some wild-eyed lemon-cayenne jihad and hold up the ice cream parlor behind our apartment building.)
speaking of lemons/lemonade, please allow me to veer briefly into serious (and warning! Depressing) public-service-announcement turf. as always, please feel free to skip.
one of the many reasons i took time off from the blog was that my stepfather died unexpectedly just before christmas. he was 48, much younger than my mom;* this year would have been their 10th anniversary. have been trying to help her untangle a scalding hot mess of troubles since then, which is why i'm here in florida. so much i could tell you, it would break your heart -- it breaks mine.
will simply say this from my soapbox: one of the best ways you show you love each other, in any long-term relationship but most especially a legal one, is to make sure you have an up-to-date will, plus a living will with your health directives. i know, it's a downer. it sounds lame, or you're young, or it's expensive -- please, if you can plan a wedding you can do this. even if you don't own stuff or have/intend to have kids, but especially if you do. make a plan together for what would happen if you weren't there to help your people figure it out, and write it down. do it for love.
end soapbox! we will be ok, with some hard work. there are some big damn lemons life bowls you over with some days -- and still there's so much beautiful in the world. please take care of each other!
*my mom will absolutely kill me if she reads this part. good thing i have a will.
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Hi, I just found your blog and I'll definitley check back.
ReplyDeletemy husband is doing the lemon detox at the moment. *sigh* I dont think he'll last. I hope it goes well for you.
I'm sorry to hear about your s.father passing xx
So sorry to hear about your loss and that you're not only mourning but wading through some tough times. A book that helped me immensely when I was mourning my Father was "Healing After Loss" by Martha Hickman I highly recommend for you and your Mom.
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ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your stepfather and his sudden passing. I wish you and your family nothing but peace as you come to terms with your loss.
Best wishes with the lemon cleanse, too. =)
*HUGS* and thanks for sharing with us and also for imparting some very practical advice.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss. Wonderful words of advice even in your time of sadness.
ReplyDeleteAnd that lemon cleanse....ooph! Good luck!
Thanks for the reminder and you are so right about it being the loving thing to do. I love the lemon-yellow board but I love to eat too much for the detox scenario!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for including my "Bridesmaid Luncheon" invitation!! You are so sweet.... Hope all is well, and I agree with you about "having a will". Very important. You would not believe the difficulties the people left behind have to face, if there is no will...
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Laura Trevey
i am so sorry for your loss and your mother's loss. I know how hard it is to be mourning and also have to be the shoulder for someone else at the same time. i am sending you positive, loving energy from here!
ReplyDeleteIm so sorry for your loss!
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